One out of three children are bullied, over 160,000 kids miss school each day due to bullying, 86% of children report bullying interfers with their studies, it is the leading factor in suicides for children 11-16 years old and 85% of the time there is no intervention. Bullying is a serious problem that is not getting any better and is usually only truly handeled by the child being bullied. We want to help arm you with the tools our students recieve on a daily basis. There are three main ways we teach our students at Arrow Martial Arts how to beat a bully and we would like to share them with you.
1. Self-Esteem: We define this as "The Joy of Being Myself!" Bullies target children that are shy, unconfident or have disabilites. Keep in mind even the start quarterback can be shy and unconfident in certain areas. The ability to show a bully what they are saying does not hurt you is powerful. Bullies will usually move on to the easier targets so making yourself hard to bully is crucial.
2. Mind: Knowledge is the key to power. We want to learn not only who, why and how bullies will come after us, but also how to respond to them. There are specific power phrases we teach our students in order to set them up for the best possible outcome in a tough situation.
The Stages of Bullying
Posted: February 04, 2020
There are four stages of bullying that we teach to our students at Arrow ATA Martial Arts.
1. The bully picks on you and you ignore it. Now keep in mind we don't mean say nothing on this stage. Our version of ignoring the bully is using our first two bully defense power phrases.
2. The bully picks on you again and you take a stand. In this stage we teach our students the third power phrase. This is when we tell the bully flat out that we don't like what they are doing and not to do it anymore.
How to Correct Your Athlete
Posted: February 03, 2020
Positive Correction Rather Than Criticism
One of the foundational blocks of Arrow Martial Arts teaching philosophy is positive correction rather than criticism. Our leadership students are taught to apply this principle to all aspects of life and I have made it a core component of my parenting.
Awareness and safety tips while walking to your car
Posted: February 02, 2020
We can often times become complacent and non-responsive to our surroundings. In Krav Maga we refer to this as our first level of awareness: unaware. It is sometimes unavoidable, however, there are many simple steps we can take to become aware. Here are a few specifically for when walking to your car.
1. Don't check you phone: As most people leave a store they jump right on their devices to see what they missed. Instead make sure you device is away and you look around your surroundings and the path to your car. This will allow you to see if something or someone in that path seems not quite right. You may even be able to ask a staff member to walk you to your car if there is someone waiting near it that has you uncomfortable.
2. Have your dominant hand free: In the case thay you may need to defend yourself you don't want to have a handfull of items in both hands. You want to have possessions in your weak hand that can be thrown as distractionary weapons and your striking hand free.
Attention Springfield Township: How to handle a bully with our Bully Prevention Program
Posted: January 15, 2020
I want to talk about the options we have when we are dealing with a bully. A lot of times when we teach this, during our new martial arts student orientation, we find that children are giving incorrect advice when dealing with a bully. Allow me to share with you the three options your child has when dealing with a bully. The first two are ones that most children, possibly even yours, have been told to do. The third is what we teach them to do.
1. Ignore the bully: By ignore the bully most children are told not to acknowledge the bully at all. The problem with this is that it is the bullies choice when and if they want to stop! What if they don't get bored and keep bullying? After all they won't find an easier target than than the person that does nothing. What we teach instead is to use two power phrases that steal the bullies power.
2. Walk away: The problem here is that you have to surrender you life to the bully. It starts by not playing on the section of the playground you want to or not sitting at the table you want to at lunch. Then it turns into not wanting to play on your sports team because the bully may be a teammate. Eventually, children don't want to go to school at all. This gives the bully to much power over us.